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Wednesday, 12 November 2014

In Search of Happiness by Swati Shiv

REASON FOR CONFLICTS – SEVERAL PERSONALITIES IN MIND

a soul becomes a diamond if it remains positive in difficulties,
the soul becomes dark like coal if it becomes revengeful , sad and negative ,
soul tests arouse conscience  and help move onwards in life ,
the souls which succeed shine brighter ,healthier and happier  by choice to evolve

All of us are caught in ideological wars from the time we start conceiving of an identity as distinct from our parents. Till we are children, we are taught the distinction between good and bad and we try to believe as taught without inner conflict.

However, as teenagers, we start seeking an identity distinct from our parents. We do not agree with everything they say and there are often several conflicts experienced due to differing ideologies.
This pattern of development creates personalities in us. There is a part of us which agrees with our parents /family values whereas there is another part which has strong individual opinions.

The divergence of a person from traditional thinking to having an identity of his/her own is a part of evolution of consciousness. For example, the need to kiss other people in public is a need to imitate the west, be more open about sexuality and break the concept wherein Indian marriages function like jails for several seeking free expression. However, there are pitfalls with every rise. Opening of sexual needs and physical intimacy can also increase irresponsible sex, create unwed mothers, increase divorces for escape reasons and increase callousness among people.

Overtime, the negative effects reduce and evolution happens but it takes centuries of revolutions in economic and social fronts. The primitive man evolved to the modern human being because of rebellion from set ways of being to development of new ways of thinking.

The divergence from traditional thinking starts at individual levels. The conflict is an inner war and later escalates to anger outburst or anxiety related problems when the person lacks emotional management skills to cope up with personality dictates from within.

A weak person allows dominant people who control money to win whereas a strong person struggles to create a new belief system. The personality war may not be visible at the conscious level. However, this personality war dominates our relationships. We get tired of living with people because there is too much personality conflict with their belief systems, which escalates overtime.
When we start rebelling from our parents, initially, as young adults; we start following someone else who is outside family. This person may be a lover, teacher, husband or wife.

We become close to this person because we want to be away from our childhood conditioning and find individual self esteem.

But, as we grow older, we realize that the friend or lover may not be the person we knew at all because his personality may undergo a complete shift while dealing with life’s challenges. A loving, modern, open minded person may become rigid, traditional and as dog minded as the parents you try to escape from. Sometimes, a bad person becomes good because a past life personality rises from within which was murdered as a saint. So, if your friend who was criminal minded no longer likes cheating or thieving, it is because his personality has become different. The inner soul takes over when a person passes through tests of life.

Relationships break as people change when one personality subsides and another rises from within. People no longer love the same people when their personality changes as the spirit which rises from the subconscious may have completely different beliefs and values of life.

Several marriages continue only superficially when personalities change of the husband or wife. Their souls can no longer connect to each other as they do not remain the same people.
The personality which rules is the one who is most dominant. This personality may not be the person himself/herself, at all. The person may literally become exactly like his father or mother who he hated in his teenage years; simply because a dominating personality takes over during difficulties and, then reigns.

Meditation and hypnotherapy are necessary to integrate personalities and find out who we really are, at the core. We need to throw out all spirit attachments/thought patterns/ beliefs and values which we follow of others. We need to stop struggling because of bossy people so that we find our inner peace and happiness.
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Instead of feeling rejected because lovers change or parents disapprove, we need to realize that each person has several hidden personalities .If you no longer connect to that person; it means that the values he imbibed from other people in his life were more dominating than yours. The choice to be with God or devil lies with each person.

The metaphor of THE Devil is a thought pattern which seeks to kill THE CREATOR. Destruction is opposite of creation. Destruction of happiness is opposite of creation of happiness.
Positive energies rule when we align our thinking with faith in God/life force /expansion of live consciousness.  The person, who chooses to be weak and helpless, chooses devil over God whereas the person who chooses to uphold individual self esteem, moves onwards the path of evolution.

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